I never hurry with getting to know about people’s pasts. For the first while, I always insist they don’t disclose their “background”, or “personal history”, as Castaneda called it. It’s essential for me to observe a person as he or she is here and now, detached from there and then, because I like seeing people “live” and it’s only here and now that matters in action.
In action, the time frame is too short to leave anything trailing behind the current scene. So it’s when there’s no such things as “what happened” and “what will happen”, I can get the most out of what’s happening.
Wonder why I’ve never thought about myself in this light before… Finally, it hits me: my past is more like what I’m looking at my current self through, rather than something that sums up who I am at the moment. I try not thinking about “then”, and “now” is still there. Moreover, it gets even more filled with life as a result.